Yesterday wasn’t blogged, but I assure you, it was definitely Saturday Special worthy. My day was spent with family and friends celebrating the love and marriage of two beautiful people.
I think Huey Lewis got it right when he said of love, “It’s strong and it’s sudden and it’s cruel sometimes
but it might just save your life.” Love can make you do wonderful things. Love can also cloud your judgment and cause you to hurt the ones you care about. Personally, I don’t believe that love is ever wrong. I think that there are varying degrees of love, different types or categories, if you will. Some people or things get filed under one category and remain there forever. Others shift easily between them, redefining themselves as they go. And whether or not you care to admit it, nothing that you have ever truly loved is gone. Even if said person or thing is no longer a part of your life, even if the thought of them angers you or hurts you or makes you feel sad, the love remains. Things change. People change. You may feel differently now, but if you allow yourself the time to reflect, chances are you can still recall what it was that made you love it (or them) in the first place. Don’t hide from it. Don’t shun it. Don’t fight it. Accept it. Embrace it. Learn from it.
“The love you take is equal to the love you make.” ~The Beatles
When the Walking Dead first began, it was clear that the show’s creators wanted you to like Rick. Your journey began with him. You were scared for him. His character was sympathetic. By the second episode, they gave you reasons to not like Shane. And it worked. I did not like him. I did not trust him. But I spent more of my time, as a woman and a wife, morally debating the actions of Lori, and again, feeling sorry for poor Rick. Since being able to go back and re-watch the series, I can honestly say that I was wrong on so many levels about Shane. I do not believe that he was a “bad guy” in the traditional sense. I do not believe that he ever intended Rick harm, or had malice coursing through his veins. I believe that he truly loved the Grimes family. And when the world thrust him into a traumatic situation, he did what he thought was right. In time, given the dire circumstances, I believe that Shane and Lori sought comfort in one another. To paraphrase The Wedding Planner, appreciation grew to respect, respect grew to like, like grew to love. Shane fell in love (so did Lori, though she tried her damnedest to deny it, as evidenced by losing her cool upon learning how Shane died). Shane fell in love and lost his heart; his mind followed suit. Desperate times cause desperate actions, none worse than those of a man with a full heart and nothing (but everything) to lose.
I wish I could take credit for this video, but I can’t. I found it a while back on youtube and it just breaks my heart. So, here’s to you, Shane. I appreciate you, respect you, like you, and love you. It took time, but I get you. And now, I miss you.